Useful words:
Accept that the present moment is rarely unbearable. …
Accept that the past is gone and isn’t coming back. …
Accept that the future hasn’t arrived and will always remain uncertain. …

I think a lot of my confusion stems from not accepting and internalizing those.

@odd I hope you went and read the original — I chopped out bits that are worth seeing. I have trouble with them too! 😀

No, I didn’t, but have bookmarked it now for later reading. That thing about pain is very real to me right now. Bad shoulder.